In the top 3 worst passages to preach on Mother’s Day
the women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. If there is anything they desire to learn, let them ask their husbands at home. For it is shameful for a woman to speak in church.1 Corinthians 14:34-35 (ESV)
Unbiblical Christianity is nothing new. God worked through the apostle Paul to help map out a good arrangement and order for how things should go when God’s people assemble together. The context of the prohibition for women to speak in church would indicate that some of the women in the assembly were creating problems by asking questions in a disruptive manner. Perhaps even generating arguments. Paul reminded the married women to be submitted to their husbands and to get their questions answered at home. I personally picture this as I’ve seen it in real time. A coward of a man that hides behind his wife and she would have no issues stepping in front of him to be the authoritative voice of doctrine and questions. Let’s simply draw a blunt line to the heart of this issue. Men, lead. Men, lead at home. A man that is not diligent in leading his family at home brings his mess into God’s house. Men, our ministry and place requires us to guard the door of doctrine in our home. Not to just leave that up to somebody else. To pour into and feed into our families with the other 167 hours of the week. To be prepared to have an answer ready for your wife and your kids if you have them. How often does a woman say, “I wish he would lead, then I wouldn’t have to. If he did (or didn’t) _____, then I wouldn’t _____.”
What about when a wife gets saved first?
To the glory of God, we’ve got to see some amazing miracles in families where a wife gets saved first.
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.1 Peter 3:1-2 (ESV)
If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.1 Corinthians 7:13-14 (ESV)
But if the unbelieving partner separates
But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?1 Corinthians 7:15-16 (ESV)
God can do such incredible things in and through amazing women of God who walk in obedience to Christ as their whole world falls apart. If any such women are reading this, please don’t give up your faith. The tested genuineness of your faith is producing eternal rewards for you and your children that are unimaginably great.
How many times should I forgive my brother?
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.1 Timothy 5:8 (ESV)
God can forgive this and so should we. If you are this man, I beg you to repent and be restored to Christ before it’s too late.
Eve’s fallen desire
And you will desire to control your husband,Genesis 3:16b (NLT)
but he will rule over you.
A woman’s desire to control the conversation in and out of the home is not good or godly. God has so generously mapped out for us the practical ways that the Church functions healthy. One very important piece of the healthy function is men who are leading at home and teaching the family at home. Women who are being led and taught by a godly man at home are so much better equipped to battle the desire to control the conversation in the home and Church.
Just bring the Word
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her, that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,Ephesians 5:25-26 (ESV)
Let us stop making excuses. We make time for what we really want to make time for. God is pleased to bring His power into our weakness. Leading our wife and children spiritually is an overflow of healthy personal time with God. We can’t give what we don’t have. God provides such a spiritual abundance when we walk with daily intentionality. Living water flows out of us and onto our families when it is our lifestyle to talk to God, study His Word, and do what it says. The Word washes our wife and children as we make time to talk about it and live it out. It’s so much more simple than we can make it out to be. Nothing fancy, no seminary degree required, just bring the Word into everything. We lead our families only as we follow Christ.
Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.1 Corinthians 16:13-14 (ESV)